For Colin Hay, the show must go on following death of former Men at Work bandmate Greg Ham

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Colin Hay is still coming to grips with the loss of his former Men at Work bandmate Greg Ham.

“He went too young — way too young,” Hay said of multi-instrumentalist Ham, who was found dead at home in Melbourne, Australia, last month. he was 58. the cause of death has not been announced.

Ham was one of Hay’s oldest friends. They met in high school.

“I always imagined getting older with Greg,” Hay said during a recent phone interview.

“We stopped doing Men at Work in 2002, but I used to see him all the time when I’d go back to Melbourne. . . . We would have coffee and we would talk about a lot of things. he was truly a man with a golden heart.”

Hay, who is in the middle of a solo North American tour, did not attend Ham’s funeral in Australia last week. instead, Hay sent a video of himself performing an old Men at Work song, “Blue for you,” at the request of Ham’s ex-wife.

“It was upsetting that I couldn’t be there,” said Hay, 58.

“I should qualify that by saying that I could’ve made it, but it would’ve meant canceling four or five shows. I talked to Greg about it, if you know what I mean. I asked him, in my own mind, what he thought I should do. And he told me to do the shows.”

Fronted by singer-guitarist Hay, Men at Work were MTV superstars in the early 1980s. Their multiplatinum debut album, “Business as Usual,” came out 30 years ago and yielded the no. 1 singles “Who can it Be now?” and “Down Under.”

“Right from the start, we knew we had something that was a bit special,” Hay said.

“We always had great aspirations. We didn’t want to be a pub band. We wanted to be an internationally successful rock band, which is what we became.”

His 11th solo album, “Gathering Mercury,” came out last year. “Dear Father,” “Where the Sky is Blue,” “A Simple Song” and other new tunes exemplify the more direct approach to songwriting that Hay has come to embrace.

“It’s my favorite thing that I’ve done,” he said of the album, which he recorded at home in Los Angeles.

“If you’re not really sure of yourself, in anything, you don’t say exactly what you mean because you fear being judged, or you try and shroud it with a bit of mystery.

“As I get older, I’m trying to strip that away. . . . It’s not so much a conscious thing, but as you get older, I think you’re always trying to leave things behind that you don’t need.”

Hay was born in Scotland. his family moved to Australia when he was 14.

They were lured there by “the promise of a better life,” Hay said.

“I was an asthmatic, and my father thought if we went somewhere warm, I wouldn’t have so much trouble with my lungs. Turns out Melbourne is one of the worst cities in the world for asthmatics, but we didn’t know that at the time.”

Several songs on “Gathering Mercury” were inspired by Hay’s father, who died in 2010.

“He was a singer and a dancer when he was a teenager,” Hay said.

“He was a great performer, a child prodigy, but he gave it up and became a piano tuner. he and my mother had a music shop in Scotland, so I was surrounded by music — guitars and drums and pianos.

“My father first played me the Beatles. he thought they were really good. he was a good writer, too, but he never really followed that path. He’d write down little lines that he would come up with, things that were clever. it was an unexpressed talent.

“I feel like whatever I got, I got pretty much directly from him. And my mother as well. she could sing also. Still can; she’s still around.

“In Scotland, everybody sings, really.”

New Study Shows Why People-Pleasers Eat More at Parties

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Finally, an explanation as to why so many people tend to eat more food at social gatherings than in any other situation.

A new study shows that individuals who tend to be people-pleasers were found more likely to eat equal amounts of food as their peers, or more in order to make others feel comfortable, as compared to those who care less about making others happy.

The study examined 100 college students who were required to take a questionnaire to assess their sociotropy, a personality trait associated with people-pleasing. The students who scored high in people-pleasing categories were those who said they ‘tended to put others’ needs before their own, worried about hurting others, and were sensitive to criticism, among other behaviors.’

Upon completing the questionnaire, researchers had the students sit with a female actor who was posing as a participant in the study. Researchers first handed a bowl of M&Ms to the actor who collected a small amount of candy (about five M&Ms), and then offered the bowl to the participants. After the students had taken their desired amount of candy, they reported how many they took and why.

What they found was that participants who had high people-pleasing scores took more candy, not only in the laboratory experiment, but also in a second study involving a similar set-up in a real-life eating situation. once researchers assessed the participants’ actions and thought process, they concluded that people-pleasers were likely to take candy based on a feeling or need to make their peers feel comfortable.

Study researcher Julie Exline, a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, said, “People-pleasers feel more intense pressure to eat when they believe that their eating will help another person feel more comfortable. Almost everyone has been in a situation in which they’ve felt this pressure, but people-pleasers seem especially sensitive to it.”

While this study looked specifically at eating habits, Exline said the same behaviors that effect the amount of food a person eats can also affect other areas of life, including academics, athletics and relationships. This is because, she says, people-pleasers have a strong desire to avoid posing a threat to other people, which is why they tend to put extra energy into trying to keep others feel at ease.

This is an eye-opening study for people who admit their dieting downfall comes when navigating the food options at social gatherings. I can personally relate to this dilemma, even as a person with mild people-pleasing tendencies. This is why it’s important for me to have a game plan before going to a party, such as snacking before I go so I’m not as hungry, or carrying around a glass of water so I’m not tempted to keep my hands busy with food.

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One more week to go: British UFC star Dan Hardy counts down to his bout at UFC 146

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Palm Oil Drops by Most in Five Months as Malaysian Exports Fall

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Palm oil declined by the most inalmost five months, for a second weekly loss, after estimatesshowed that Malaysian exports fell and as concern Europe’s debtcrisis may worsen damped demand for commodities.

The July-delivery contract slumped 2.2 percent to close at3,275 ringgit ($1,060) a metric ton on the Malaysia DerivativesExchange, the biggest drop for the most-active contract sinceDec. 15. Futures dropped 2.5 percent this week, after a 4.2percent loss last week.

Shipments declined 6 percent to 450,269 tons in the first10 days of may from the same period a month earlier, Interteksaid yesterday. Exports fell 14 percent to 419,364 tons in thesame period, Societe Generale de Surveillance estimated.

Commodities fell for an eighth day today, wiping out gainsfor the year, on concern turmoil in Greece may worsen Europe’scrisis and as JPMorgan Chase & co. (JPM) (JPM) said it had a $2 billiontrading loss on derivatives. Data also showed weaker industrialoutput in China and India.

“Demand is anemic,” said Paramalingam Subramaniam, adirector of Kuala Lumpur-based brokerage Pelindung Bestari Sdn.The “macro uncertainties in the European Union” are weighingon prices, he said in an e-mail.

Greece has been unable to form a government since the may 6elections, stoking concerns over the country’s ability to holdto the terms of bailouts negotiated since may 2010 andpossibility of the nation leaving the currency union.

Europe’s economy will fail to grow this year after nationsfrom Spain to Italy slipped into recession, the EuropeanCommission said today. Gross domestic product in the 17-nationeuro area will drop 0.3 percent, the commission said,reiterating a February forecast.

Crude oil, copper and gold headed for second weeklydeclines and equities fell after Jamie Dimon, chief executiveofficer at JPMorgan, the biggest U.S. bank by assets, said thelender made egregious mistakes leading to the loss.

Soybeans for July delivery fell 1 percent to $14.4025 abushel on the Chicago Board of Trade. Soybean oil, whichcompetes with palm oil for use in food and fuels, lost 1.63percent to 52.63 cents per pound.

Palm oil for September delivery slumped 2.5 percent toclose at 8,438 yuan ($1,337) a ton on the Dalian CommodityExchange, the lowest for the most-active contract since March 8and the biggest drop since October. Soybean oil for the samemonth fell 1.9 percent to 9,566 yuan.

To contact the reporter on this story:Ranjeetha Pakiam in Kuala Lumpur at rpakiam@bloomberg.net

To contact the editor responsible for this story:James Poole at jpoole4@bloomberg.net

Senate gives Vikings stadium 2nd big victory

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Published 9:06am Wednesday, may 9, 2012

After 11 hours of debate and some close calls, the Minnesota Vikings stadium legislation won approval late Tuesday from the state Senate to set up a final round of negotiations.

The full Legislature is now on record, with a majority of lawmakers opting for a publicly subsidized stadium. Barring reversals or late surprises, the Vikings are primed to emerge this month with authorization for a new $975 million stadium it has chased for more than a decade.

The Senate’s 38-20 vote Tuesday came a day after the House approved its own stadium bill. a conference committee will work out differences, and the Vikings are already on record against the House version for a $105 million hike in the amount they would pay. the Senate’s version includes a smaller bump.

If both chambers pass the final product, the measure goes to Democratic Gov. Mark Dayton, who has led the charge for a new stadium for months.

District 27 Sen. Dan Sparks, DFL-Austin, said he voted in favor of the bill because he thought it was important to keep the bill moving and to continue negotiations.

“We’ve heard from a lot of folks back at home who think Minnesota Vikings are important to the quality of life here in Minnesota,” Sparks said. “Now we have some accountability for both senators and representatives on where they stand on the bill.”

He noted local bars and restaurants will also be able to take advantage of the charitable gambling proposed to go toward the stadium.

“Hopefully we can find a bill that will get approval by both the House and Senate and make it to the governor’s desk,” Sparks added.

Reps. Jeanne Poppe, DFL-Austin, and Rich Murray, R-Albert Lea, both voted for the House version of the bill.

The Vikings say they can’t make enough money in the 30-year-old Metrodome to compete.

It was clear from the get-go Tuesday that stadium supporters wanted to turn to offense rather than defense in the Senate. It was Sen. Julie Rosen, the stadium bill sponsor, who promoted user fees on suites, parking and Vikings merchandise. another backer pushed for the $25 million additional team contribution, and that amendment was approved unanimously.

The user fee amendment — adopted on a 40-26 vote — would levy a 10 percent fee on suites and on parking within a half-mile of the stadium, and impose a 6.875 percent fee on Vikings clothing, trading cards and other memorabilia.

Throughout a debate that stretched from early afternoon past nightfall, senators twice approved amendments they overturned later. one would have imposed a more aggressive slate of user fees that could cut into Vikings profits and a second would have subjected portions of the bill to a potential Minneapolis voter referendum.

Sen. Dave Thompson, R-Lakeville, said the deal to date has been negotiated by people too willing to please the team.

“When stadium proponents are putting things on that make the deal less appealing to the Vikings, you wonder if it’s been put on just for the purpose of attracting votes and then getting pulled out in conference committee,” said Thompson, the leader of the conservative faction within the Senate GOP caucus. “But I guess time will tell.”

Earlier Tuesday, a Vikings executive warned state lawmakers against making major changes to the financing proposal, saying they risked losing the team’s support for the deal. Vice President Lester Bagley told reporters after the vote that the team wasn’t ready to commit to an uptick in the private share. He said there were “a lot of issues that needed to be sorted through” in the upcoming conference committee.

Bagley has pointed to a bill for a new Twins ballpark that cleared the Legislature in 2002, only to fall apart later. It took the team another four years to win legislative support for a workable bill.

Under a plan negotiated last winter by the governor, key lawmakers, the Minneapolis mayor and the team, the Vikings would pay $427 million and the state would pay $398 million, with the money coming from an expansion of gambling. the city of Minneapolis would kick in $150 million by redirecting an existing hospitality tax.

But lawmakers will have the final say on how big a taxpayer subsidy is provided.

The Vikings are no longer under a Metrodome lease, leaving some to worry they could bolt if they don’t have a new stadium after next season.

“We don’t want the Vikings to leave,” said Sen. Geoff Michel, R-Edina. “We want to take the wheels off this franchise and keep them for our children and grandchildren. I don’t want to cheer for the Green Bay Packers. I don’t want to cheer for the Chicago Bears. we need an NFL franchise in Minnesota. this is the bill. this is the day.”

Others weren’t buying the threat of team flight.

“I want to know where the Vikings are going if they leave,” said Democratic Sen. Barb Goodwin of Columbia Heights.

She added, “I think we’re scaring a lot of people for no good reason.” Goodwin wound up supporting the bill anyway.

—The associated Press contributed to this report.

Anger: How to Recognize and Deal with a Common Emotion

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Newswise — seven questions for anger expert Howard Kassinove, PhD

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Introduction: Everyone knows what it feels like to be angry. yet the causes, effects and ways to control anger are sometimes not well understood. Psychologists can help people recognize and avoid anger triggers. They also can provide ways to deal with anger when it does occur. Howard Kassinove, PhD, ABPP, is professor of psychology at Hofstra University and director of the university’s Institute for the Study and Treatment of anger and Aggression. a former director of Hofstra’s PhD program and chair of the Psychology Department, he has more than 40 years’ experience as a scientist and professional psychologist.

Kassinove is a fellow of the American Psychological Association and the Association for Psychological Science. he is board certified in clinical psychology and is the current president of the American Board of Cognitive and Behavioral Psychology. he has co-authored two books about anger: anger Management: the Complete Treatment Guidebook for Practitioners (2002, Impact Publishers) and anger Management for Everyone: seven Proven Ways to Control anger and Live a Happier Life (2009, Impact Publishers).

APA recently asked Dr. Kassinove the following questions about anger.

APA: what is anger and how does it differ from aggression?

Dr. Kassinove: anger is a negative feeling state that is typically associated with hostile thoughts, physiological arousal and maladaptive behaviors. It usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful. anger involves certain styles of thinking such as, “My boss criticized me in front of my colleagues. Now, I’m fuming. he shouldn’t be so disrespectful!” or “That woman in front of me is driving so slowly. this is exasperating. she shouldn’t be allowed to drive on the freeway!” anger energizes us to retaliate. our data indicate that about 25 percent of anger incidents involve thoughts of revenge such as, “I’m going to spread rumors about my boss to get even,” or “I’d like to just bump her car to put her in her place.” interestingly, anger usually emerges from interactions with people we like or love, such as children, spouses and close friends.

Angry thoughts may be accompanied by muscle tension, headaches or an increased heart rate. In addition, the verbal and physical expressions of anger may serve as a warning to others about our displeasure. the verbal expressions include yelling, arguing, cursing and sarcasm. However, anger can also be expressed physically by raising a clenched fist, throwing a book on the floor, breaking a pencil or hitting a wall. Sometimes, anger is not expressed externally but remains as internal rumination.

Aggression, in contrast, refers to intentional behavior that aims to harm another person. Often, it reflects a desire for dominance and control. In the cases I see in my clinical and research work, weapons are often involved. Aggression can be shown by punching, shoving, hitting or even maiming another person, and it can occur in marital violence, child or elder abuse, bullying or gang and criminal activities. Since anger is typically expressed only through loud verbalizations, it is the cases of aggression that wind up in the criminal justice system. our research shows that about 90 percent of aggressive incidents are preceded by anger. However, only 10 percent of anger experiences are actually followed by aggression. People often want to act aggressively when angry but, fortunately, most do not actually take aggressive actions. also, there is sometimes an impulse to engage in problem solving behaviors when angry.

Yet, anger is an important problem in its own right with negative consequences in many aspects of life such as marriages, the workplace, parent-child interactions and driving behavior. anger is associated with interpersonal conflicts, negative evaluations by others, erratic driving, property destruction, occupational maladjustment, inappropriate risk taking, accidents, substance abuse and so-called crimes of passion.

APA: what are some of the positive aspects of anger?

Dr. Kassinove: Many of the longer-term outcomes of anger are negative. yet, anger is part of our biological history. It is part of the fight-or-flight reaction. It had survival value in the past and it has some positives in the present. Many of these, however, are short-term benefits as few of us like to spend time with angry people.

Anger can be an appropriate response to injustice. no doubt, anger played a useful part in social movements for equality for blacks, the elderly and women, among others. anger may also lead to better outcomes in business negotiations as well as an increased motivation to right the wrongs we see in the world.

The positives include its alerting function. anger tells others it is important to listen to us – that we feel agitated and it is wise to be alert to our words and actions. It may also lead to compliance by others. Strongly asserting that we were first in line at a store counter may lead to better service. also, in the short term, children and others may be more likely to comply with our requests when we are angry. “Don’t go in the street without holding mommy’s hand!” when said angrily to a small child, can be lifesaving. anger sometimes just feels good and righteous. We may feel angry when watching a movie or a play where a character suffers inappropriately. Then, when good triumphs over evil, anger is replaced with a feeling of satisfaction. Playwrights have known about this for eons. In a similar vein, anger provides a certain zest for life. Can you imagine a world with no anger? the healthier, milder levels of irritation and annoyance add spice to daily existence and we all seem to enjoy that.

APA: what are some of the potential health consequences of anger?

Dr. Kassinove: Many people consider excessive anger to be just a psychological problem. That is a gross simplification. when we become angry, the autonomic nervous system is aroused. for example, anger precipitated by the discovery of a spouse’s secret affair will likely lead to arousal of the sympathetic nervous system and associated hormonal and neurochemical changes. these physiological reactions can lead to increases in cardiovascular responding, in respiration and perspiration, in blood flow to active muscles and in strength. as the anger persists, it will affect many of the body’s systems, such as the cardiovascular, immune, digestive and central nervous systems. this will lead to increased risks of hypertension and stroke, heart disease, gastric ulcers, and bowel diseases, as well as slower wound healing and a possible increased risk of some types of cancers.

Research has found that anger is an independent risk factor for heart disease. having a tendency to experience anger frequently, in many types of situations, is known as high trait anger. One study followed 12,986 adults for approximately three years and found a two to three times increased risk of coronary events in people with normal blood pressure but with high trait anger. Another study followed 4,083 adults for 10 to 15 years. Those who were lowest on anger control had the highest risk of fatal and non-fatal cardiovascular events. After reviewing the literature, experts have concluded that high trait anger, chronic hostility, anger expression and acute anger episodes can lead to new and recurrent cardiovascular disease. when anger is experienced moderately and expressed assertively it may be less disruptive than when it is frequent, intense and enduring.

APA: what has psychological research revealed about why some people are more prone to anger than others?

Dr. Kassinove: Proneness to anger has to be examined with regard to thoughts, physiological reactions and physical activity. With regard to the physiological reactions, some people are easily aroused and quickly respond to aversive stimuli. They rapidly become angered by bad smells, heat and annoying noises. others are slow to react and seem not bothered by such stimuli. Genetic variability plays a big part here.Physical expressions of anger, such as sulking, banging the desk or hitting the wall are learned by the forces of reinforcement and copying others.

Finally, some evidence suggests that violent video games and, perhaps, listening to angry music with violent lyrics may fuel anger and aggression in some people. In violent videogames, players hear quick-paced, excitatory angry music. They learn to be hyper alert, to respond impulsively and to kill opponents. this leads to reinforcement in the form of points, acquisition of new weapons, access to upper levels of the games and accolades by others in the gaming environment.

APA: what are some of the steps that people can take when dealing with anger among family members or friends? how would they differ from dealing with a stranger – such as a store clerk, taxi driver or other service person?

Dr. Kassinove: anger felt when dealing with strangers emerges from transient interactions. You may never see the clerk or driver or waiter again. If you ask yourself how important the annoying situation really is, you usually come up with, “not very important at all.” At most, you have suffered from paying a bit too much for the taxi ride or being delayed a few minutes by the clerk. Recognize that these are unpleasant events, not catastrophes, and work around them. go to a different restaurant or go to the store at off hours to return a purchase. also, recognize the difference between events that you can change and those that are beyond you. when you take a cab ride, tell the driver about your preferred route. when you order that steak in the restaurant, ask for extra ketchup before the waiter leaves the table never to be seen again. You have less control over other events. Airplanes, for various reasons, are frequently late. There is little you can do. Accept the delay as an opportunity to read or relax, not disastrous or worthy of anger.

Anger felt when dealing with family members or friends is different because of the ongoing interactions. to address this kind of anger, the self-help strategies that are quickest and easiest to use are avoidance and escape, relaxation, cognitive restructuring and assertive expression. Directly facing all problems may not be the best solution. Sometimes, avoiding an interaction that is likely to lead to anger is best. for example, allow a spouse to deal with an unfair store clerk or a disruptive child. Learn that you can occasionally lean on others to work out problems. Relaxation is a great tool to deal with anger, since angry folks tense their muscles and develop headaches and stomach aches. Find a comfortable chair that will support the arms and legs, and a quiet time. take deep breaths and focus on allowing the muscles to voluntarily relax. become aware that muscular relaxation is learned through practice. Soft music often helps. Cognitive restructuring refers to learning how to appropriately analyze aversive situations. anger experiences are often associated with cognitive distortions, such as misappraisals about the importance of the event or about the capacity to cope. anger is a moral emotion and typically associated with justice-oriented demands in the form of “should.” In addition, angry adults make overgeneralizations about the meaning of behaviors shown by others and they limit their options with “either/or” thinking, such as “Either he’s my friend or he’s not. It’s just that simple!” Learn to see negative situations as bad, but also as opportunities to develop coping skills and learn new behaviors. Recognize that others do good and bad things. get rid of those broad generalizations about people. to be assertive means expressing anger directly, in an appropriate tone and without demeaning the other person. If you have been offended or disrespected, it is OK to say, “When you said my work was subpar in front of the others, I felt angry. I’d like to talk to you about the situation so that we can improve our relationship.” It is quite another thing to say, “You acted like a real jerk today. how dare you talk like that in front of the others! You have plenty wrong with you also!”

APA: At what point should a person seek professional help for anger?

Dr. Kassinove: some degree of anger will be with us for all of our lives. So, this is the question to ask: “Is my anger working for me?” when anger is mild, infrequent, dissipates quickly and is expressed assertively (directly to the problem person, in a non-accusatory manner) and without aggression, then professional help is not needed. In such circumstances, anger may serve the role of simply highlighting your annoyance and it can lead to problem resolution.

However, if your anger is moderate to intense, experienced frequently, endures to the point where you are holding a grudge and are planning to get even, and is expressed in aggressive verbal and physical actions, then there is cause for alarm. You are likely at risk for the negative relationship, health and sometimes legal repercussions related to inappropriate anger expression.

APA: what are the most effective treatments for people who have a serious anger problem and wish to gain control over the emotion?

Dr. Kassinove: anger management works. There have been six large-scale analyses of adult anger management programs. the latest one reviewed 96 different studies and concluded that psychological treatments are moderately effective for treating anger in various groups. this includes work to reduce anger in college and university settings, community treatment facilities, correctional facilities and hospitals. In some cases, significant effects were found in as little as eight treatment sessions and the results were maintained in follow-ups of a month to a year. the strongest effects are found with multicomponent treatment programs. Interventions based on cognitive or cognitive-behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy and skill training work best. Relaxation programs, stress inoculation programs and exposure-based interventions are also helpful.

It is wise for individuals seeking anger management services to begin at their local universities or hospitals and to ask how long they have offered anger management services. Personnel with up-to-date research knowledge and specific training and more experience working in the area of anger management are likely to provide the best service. the American Psychological Association, in Washington, D.C., is the largest scientific and professional organization representing psychology in the United States and is the world’s largest association of psychologists. APA’s membership includes more than 137,000 researchers, educators, clinicians, consultants and students. through its divisions in 54 subfields of psychology and affiliations with 60 state, territorial and Canadian provincial associations, APA works to advance psychology as a science, as a profession and as a means of promoting health, education and human welfare.

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My weight loss before and after

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And since this blog is as much mine as it is yours, I figured I should at least do something I’ve asked you to do: Share weight loss before and after photos.

It’s one thing to take a before-and-after photo to keep tucked away in your sock drawer as a tool to motivate you to make sure you never fit into a size 16 again. but, it’s entirely another to share that same photo with all of the Web.

But here I go. So there I am. Above. my before and *almost* after (I still have 15 pounds to go until my goal weight.)

I’m by no means done. becoming fit and healthy does not stop for me when I reach a certain number on the scale. after running my first 5k, I actually feel like my journey has just begun.

This is just to show you that I’m a normal person like you. Working as hard as I can to become the healthiest, fittest version of myself that I can in a slow, steady, and healthy way.

I haven’t used any fad or crash diets. As I’ve written before, I simply changed my eating habits, started exercising more, and have made small lifestyle changes that have somehow added up over time. (If you want to see what tools I have used on a daily basis, you can check out that post here.)

Now that I’ve shared my before-and-(almost)-after, I want to see yours. It doesn’t matter if you’re not done yet, or if you think you can’t visibly see a change. You’re making an effort, and ultimately, in my book, that effort over time is what really counts.

Submit your weight-loss before-and-after photos here. You can even upload a “before” and upload an “after” sometime later.

Starting A Play Date Group On Facebook – Blog – MomVault

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As a stay at home mom I am always looking for new activities, events, and playgrounds to go to. while it’s fun just packing up and going somewhere I do like to try and do events with friends I know. this led me to create a Facebook group called “Angela’s Play Dates” and invited some of my mommy firends.

My first message read as follows:

Welcome to my play dates group! as warmer weather approaches we’ll be leaving the house to go to various parks and I thought it would be neat to let you know where we’ll be if you want to join! Feel free to remove yourself from the group if you don’t think it will be advantageous for you. also, this is a “secret group” so it cannot be found in searches. I will try to have events posted at least a few days ahead of time but some will inevitably be last minute trips to a park or jump place etc. I look forward to keeping in touch with all of you!

I feel maybe a follow up message should be posted that explains that the play date isn’t an exclusivity thing. as in, if you come you don’t have to spend time with us, it’s just nice to have people that we know around and have some familiarity in new places.

I try to do a variety of events that allow other stay at home parents, working parents, and parents with kids that nap early and/or late to attend. I also try to be as specific as I can about times, locations, dependencies (like weather), meals, etc.

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Study: Celebrities played role in spreading news of bin Laden death

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by Steve Myers Published May 1, 2012 11:13 am Updated May 1, 2012 11:14 am

Georgia Institute of Technology | PoynterA new research paper says celebrities played an important role in spreading the news of Osama bin Laden’s death one year ago tonight. Researchers tracked which accounts were mentioned in tweets about bin Laden and found that there were three distinct patterns. Mentions of “media people” spiked first, but they were soon outpaced by official media accounts. Celebrity mentions grew more slowly, but those figures became dominant as time went on and media mentions declined. “while media people and the mass media compete to be the first to report the news, celebrities use their social influence to help spread the news and stimulate discussions,” researchers conclude.

this graph shows mentions of three user types as news spread of bin Laden’s death on the night of May 1, 2011. (“Breaking News on Twitter,” Mengdie Hu et. al.)

Of the 100 accounts mentioned the most in the sample of tweets over two hours, 15 were real-life celebrities and 16 were “Twitter celebrities,” with more than 100,000 followers. (Just 96,500 followers until I hit the big time!) Media people and mass media accounts made up 44 of the top 100 accounts.

The most-cited Twitter accounts were @CNN, @CNNEE (its Spanish-language account) and @nytimes. Jill Jackson, the CBS News producer who appears to have been the first to report confirmation of bin Laden’s death, was the fourth most-cited. The top users were cited about 18 percent of the time, which researchers say matches previous conclusions that a small number of “elite” users generate a disproportionate amount of the information on Twitter.

Readers answer our call for their mothers’ best recipes

Posted by admin | Posted in recipes | Posted on 11-05-2012-05-2008

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Special to the Star-Telegram

Few memories are more emotionally charged than those of Mom comforting us with her cooking. There were moments when nothing made us feel more secure or deeply loved than those spent watching a favorite grandmother roll out dough to make us one of her best pies.So it came as little surprise when the mailbox was flooded with responses to our request for your family’s favorite recipes from mothers and grandmothers.we received stories and recipes with memories so touching we almost needed a box of tissues in easy reach. There was Kathy Challis, whose mom, Patricia Boggs, passed along a recipe for candy made of sugar, potato and peanuts dating from the great Depression, when folks in the South needed to make do with inexpensive goods on hand. Daniel Blumberg explained that “to eat matzo ball soup is to bathe in love,” and that when he eats his Oma’s soup, “I feel my deceased grandparents’ eyes on me.”That’s why narrowing down choices for publication was so difficult; we wanted to let you tell all of your tales. Somehow we picked an excellent eight recipes, four sweet and four savory. In honor of Mother’s Day, we share them with you. If your mom and grandmom are still around, maybe you can cook something for them today. If not, perhaps you’ll be remembering them with the love they fed you, bowl by bowl.off the Wall biscuitsDian Whitworth Lewallen of Keller told us that, when she was growing up in Montana, her mother would make homemade biscuits for the family. When Lewallen left home, her mother transcribed favorites recipes on index cards. “I used these to help keep me close to my family as my husband and I transferred to different locations during his military career.”With both parents now gone, Lewallen wanted a reminder of them in her Texas home, so she traced and painted her mother’s biscuit recipe in her mom’s handwriting on her kitchen wall.”Now when I want to make biscuits, I don’t pull out my mother’s index card. I just read it off the wall, thus the name off the Wall Biscuits. I always smile thinking of Mom making the biscuits.”Makes 10 to 12 biscuits2 cups sifted flour4 teaspoons baking powder1/2 teaspoon cream of tartar1/2 teaspoon salt2 tablespoons sugar1/2 cup shortening2/3 cup milk1 egg, unbeaten1. Sift together flour, baking powder, cream of tartar, salt and sugar. Add shortening. Mix until it’s the consistency of corn meal. Pour milk into the mixture slowly. Add the egg. Stir the mixture into a stiff dough.2. Knead just a little. Pat it into about a 1/2-inch thickness.3. Cut out 10-12 biscuits, using a drinking glass, can or biscuit cutter.4. Bake 10 to 15 minutes at 450 degrees in a greased pie plate.

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