Posted by admin | Posted in dating | Posted on 09-06-2012-05-2008
The most recent government report on high school students involved in abusive relationships found that nearly one in 10 has been physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend. Programs to teach teenagers about relationships are proliferating, but questions about their effectiveness and reach remain. what advice have you received about relationships? what advice do you wish you had received? what would you encourage a younger friend to keep in mind before dating?
In the article “A Warning to Teenagers Before They start Dating,” Jan Hoffman writes:
Esta Soler, president of Futures Without Violence, a national anti-violence organization, said there were many reasons to start talking to younger students about abuse.
In middle school, Ms. Soler said, they are rocketing through emotional and social development, beginning to make their own choices. “But they still respond to input from caring adults,” she added. A 2010 study of 1,430 seventh graders in eight middle schools in three cities underscores the need for such education.
The study, commissioned by the Johnson Foundation and released this spring, showed that three-quarters of students had already had a boyfriend or girlfriend. one in three said they had been victims of psychological dating violence; nearly one in six said they had experienced physical dating violence. Almost half said they had been touched in an unwanted sexual way or had been the target of sexual slurs.
It can be daunting to engage adolescents about intimate topics. to ease their awkwardness, Ms. Miller incorporates the students’ creative work and pop icons. For example, her staff created surveys rating the relationships of the characters in “The Hunger Games” books and movie. They sponsor poetry slams, with teenagers reading “Love What’s Real” poems, dancing to a “Relationship Remix” of hits.
Middle-school intervention programs are so new that assessing their effectiveness is difficult. the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention gave grants to middle-school programs in four urban sites last fall. in reauthorization drafts this spring for the Violence Against Women Act — Michael D. Crapo, Republican of Idaho, was a co-author in the Senate — the eligibility age for dating violence education and service programs is now as young as 11.
Students: if you have been dating for a while, what tips or words of wisdom would you give those who are new to it? if you haven’t, what kind of advice would you like someone older to give you? Have you ever heard of someone your age in a detrimental relationship? how would you help a friend in such a situation? what kind of behavior in a relationship would you consider inappropriate, and what might you do if you were the victim of it?